I hear so many people say that they don't care what their spouse thinks; if there is something they want to do, they are going to do it regardless of what their spouse thinks. Selfishness seems to run rampant in marriage. I can guarantee you, that is not the way God designed marriage to work, and it won't work that way for very long. Jesus is our example of having a servant's heart. Even while being betrayed and spat upon, He loved and forgave and went to the cross for the guilty ones. I'm not suggesting that we suffer abuse or violence. I'm talking about the ebb and flow of every day life, the things that upset and frustrate us, the actions that make us mad and try our patience.
|My mom and dad|
If you have days when you are weak and troubled by life, wouldn't it be a joy to have your spouse recognize it and do what they could to minister to you, until you are so filled up with the love they're giving you, that you are back on top? The secret is that you should be doing that for them too. Somebody has to give up the idea of being "right" and be the first one to say, "I'll be the one. I'll be unselfish towards you, even when I don't want to. Even when I don't feel like it." Can you be that one? Can you give up your right to be right and instead, look for ways to minister to your spouse?
What things do you do to make love deposits in your marriage account? Are you making more withdrawals than deposits? What changes can you make to bring God into the mix of your marriage so that it isn't just hard, but also sweet?
From His Lap,